I think I started off on the wrong foot with some of you guys out there.  Let me start by saying that I love you guys.  I love how you can fix things (Not sure where you all learned these things, but it amazes me sometimes), I love that you can put on a tshirt and jeans and look perfectly put together for almost any occassion, I love how y'all stare at women and just think they are beautiful, I love how funny most of you are, there are endless things that I love about men.  I say this because I have written things that may come out in a way that seems like I think men are crap.  I don't.  I think there are things about all of us that are just so different and I can't figure out why you men think the way you do.  I mean there are obvious reasons, but sometimes I just don't get it.  I was talking to someone the other day and they mentioned that men have a harder time commiting, but when they do, they are commited.  Then when and if things don't work out they have a much harder time letting go.  Men tend to be the ones that sulk, worry and mourn after a relationship while women tend to change their lives, go have fun, go on a vacation, etc. etc.  I thought about it and I think that's true.  Girls fall quick and let go quick.  At least from the outside.  I think that women tend to see things in a relationship and when they start to see them fading they put forth the effort they feel neccessary and if it isn't reciprocated then we know we tried and we can let go.  I am not saying this is always true.  It's not, there are lots of circumstances.  I just think in general this is what I see.  Men tend to not see everything that's going on in a relationship and even when a woman tries to communicate it's not always heard on the other end.  Then, when things have come to end it's a surprise to men.  I know that men don't communicate as well as women, it's a fact.  They just don't.  We could practically do it for a living.  We can't stop talking...to anyone.  We talk to our dogs, kids, husbands, boyfriends, parents and anyone who will lend an ear and we do this incessantly.  Call it downfall cause we can't shut our mouths, but at the same time it's a benefit to have someone constantly telling you how they feel.  Men...non-communicaters.  I know it's hard to listen to the incessant talking and babbling (although everything we say is very very important), but sometimes listening at the right time might be what saves the relationship in the end.  Lend an ear to those in your life and you may just find out a thing or two.  You may solve some problems or save your relationship.